11 Responses

  1. Jamie 2.1
    Jamie 2.1 at |

    Somehow, you’ve mot yet forgotten what your bae did to you, Mr. Anonymous! I think it’s his fault, and if I could tell him, I’d say that he should do more than just beg you. He needs to revive the love you had for him, cos it’s replaced with some repulsion and dispassion! If it’s not working, just walk out. A relationship thrives with sacrifices, yes! But it has to come from both sides… If one of the partners is selfish, it doesn’t work. You ought to know what works for you, and don’t go for less. If it’s not working, make a better choice, or you’ll get more devastated and hurt next time it goes wrong…

  2. Edward
    Edward at |

    I don’t have anal sex either because it’s far too painful for me the several times I’ve tried. There are other forms of intimacy and other forms of sex that DO work for both me and whomever I’m with. You can absolutely have love without sex (however you draw the line with that term) and, as I said, other forms of intimacy. If anal sex were a dealbreaker for someone in my life, I might have to let them go because I know my limits and my body’s limits.

    What I would recommend this guy before anything would be for him to stop dating people who don’t really have an interest in him. I’m an anti-drama llama and you better have yourself and your mind together if you want to be in a relationship with me. I may not know many things in life but I do know one thing: I know who I am. I’m not searching for anything to magically fix my life. Let love form slowly, let it take its time. I don’t think this man should worry.

  3. Solomon Ebony
    Solomon Ebony at |

    I guess you don’t feel the vibes again. He has made u miserable for a long time and your mind as adjusted for a new person. That new person is the only one that can break u now. You love him because of what you guys have shared together. That love is there
    But sex can never be the same. The only way to make love to him, is TIME
    time can create a temporary urge to have sex. Not permanent. So pls move on quietly. This time u need a secret love affair., Jr, that is to say “Double dating”

  4. Corey
    Corey at |

    Maybe you’re just tired of all of the drama and BULLSHIT!
    Leave both of the emotionally bankrupt deadbeat drug abusers alone, and continue doing YOU; how about getting your mental health together!? Move on and stop worrying about why it didn’t work, and let’s try making sure that it doesn’t happen again. And a few comments above, there’s a guy named Edward – LISTEN TO HIM! I wish you all the success in moving forward in life, love, light and clarity.

  5. daniel
    daniel at |

    most likely this happened between month 0 and month 6 of your relationship. i am old so get most of the stages not only of relationships but life. for this one question i would say it is lust and not love that bound and now separates you.

  6. Omodele
    Omodele at |

    It is a really sad situation, but I think you have to connect to the man within you. Are you on a journey to find love, or are you on a journey to find sexual satisfaction? Is that guy really right for you? I always tell people, you can be in love with someone and not even have any sexual thought for that person. It has happened to me very many times, and its not a crush on straight men that I am talking about. If you really really love that guy, I am sure no amount of sexual disinertia will keep you away from him, or him away from your heart. And that was just one time. It isn’t every time that you are with even the sexiest person in the world that you have a bulge or wanna get down. It doesn’t mean there is no chemistry or electricity.
    If you really love him, come to terms with yourself. Build a relationship. Put the sex aside. Work out the love with determination and sacrifice. There will always be time for sex. We are men, we do not need an cycle to get horny. The day will come when the sex will just happen. But make sure that when that day comes, your love for him has been established deeply.
    Love is all that matters, friend……love is all that matters…

  7. Eusebius
    Eusebius at |

    I have been in same situation, but I have decided to move on. This last guy drove me crazy. I kept loving him but he kept giving me the opposite. Currently, I met a new guy who I believe truly loves me. Even when I told him of the previous guy, he just laughed and told me he is not a jealous love. So, I have decided to love the guy who loves me and forget the one who doesn’t.

  8. Domingo Torres
    Domingo Torres at |

    The mind is a very powerful control of your sexual functions. Even as your conscious mind desires the good part of that past relationship, your subconscious does not. Your subconscious recognizes the repetition of the same oh same oh, thus takes over to protect you from suffering again. Trust your subconscious. However if this persist with a different partner than what this means that yiu have suffered seriously this antigonistc behavior that has affected you pychologically, if so than you should make an appointment with a mental therapist to help your mind move back to were it is suppose to be or you can come and let’s try a date. We are so much a like.

  9. Johnson
    Johnson at |

    Hmmmm, tongue out, can’t say anything because I’ve not been there before, I don’t know how it looks like so no comments.


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