Here is how to be gay and safe in Nigeria

“The singular duty you owe yourself is to be alive. Don’t jeopardize that for unsolvable peril.”

I had to confirm what he had said by asking him to repeat himself, which he did in clearer terms. I couldn’t even wait to hear his short story. I was so irritated I had to leave because nobody called him out. Not even the curator of this gathering. The silence, or laughter, from the audience gave approval to that kind of bigoted thinking. Once again I felt as if I was assaulted.

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    Wizzy 4 years

    You are really right.. but it so sad hiding from your real self. But what can you do…it is what it is already. As the saying goes “when you go to Rome act as Rome’s .

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    Marixbell 4 years

    t must be my extreme good luck to have got a chance to read this
    Well written

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    Samuel 4 years

    It’s so hard to live a camouflage life, we should always pray for God’s protection and BTMs should reduce how they visit to avoid kito and other things… God be with us.

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    Cherry 4 years

    Bottoms also should also control their sex drives, in order not to fall prey to set ups, I have a policy which is, ‘wanking is far better than being set up…

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    Very interesting

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    Nicole 3 years

    I’m not gay or bi, but as a Nigerian this made me even more sad because I can only imagine the dangers homosexual Nigerians face. There was a book in my mom’s library that I read when I was really young that was essentially a homosexual romance story so I did not consider it unusual. I had no idea until the law against homosexuals came out how hated they were in my country and I have felt for them ever since.

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