Nigeria: Gay youth trapped at home with homophobic dad
As the country’s lockdown continues and coronavirus cases increase, LGBTIQ+ Nigerians have become more vulnerable.
From the African Human Rights Media Network
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By Mike Daemon
LGBTIQ+ Nigerians have expressed fears over increased vulnerability since the lockdown began. Unemployment, depression, loneliness, reduced access to HIV care and support, domestic violence and homelessness are growing problems for LGBTIQ+ community members.
For some, the problems begin at home.
Festus (name changed for safety), a gay youth in Lagos who reached out to NoStrings via chat, said the lockdown has left him hungry and afraid of what his homophobic father might do to him.
“I think I am going to run mad. My father has refused to provide food since he found out that I am gay a few days ago. He went through my phone after I slept off and read all my chats. Now he wants me to leave the house.”
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Festus, who is currently in training for a career in fashion and designing, said his father has made his life hell. He often has to sleep on an empty stomach.
“My father said I should be going out during the day, that he doesn’t want to see me, else he might be tempted to kill me. Now I go out and most times wander on the street before returning back home to sleep at night. He has also asked me to leave immediately after the lockdown.”
Festus said he is currently looking for a place to stay whilst still pursuing his dreams of becoming a fashion designer.
“I am looking for a place to live. I don’t want to commit suicide. It’s hard staying at home. My father hates me so much I can see it. I just want to finish my training and see how I can get my life together,” he said.
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This is so sad 😭😭😭😭
Clearly this situation is not exclusively for Nigeria, but is generally a danger for the welbeing of all gay youths all around the world were countries with backward laws and regulations are existing banning homosexuality, and were anti-gay family-members are around, leaving the gay youth vulnarable to ill- and mis-treatment!
Homosexuality is as natural as heterosexuality, as LOVE is GENDERLESS!
I will like to be of help to the gay youth in this situation
How exactly? Please send an email to info@nostringsng.com
Thanks.
Nigerian Fathers can be mean at times. Well it’s a pity to be thrown out of the house. Well I pray he finds help because this is the highest situation one can be in.
It’s absurd that such a father could do that to his son,
I pray he finds the help he needed..
I feel this my fellow because I put myself in his shoes, to me I haven’t faced such challenges I can testify the reasons, although I’m still a student in the university, but I spot myself and do all things only by his grace, to I will encourage him to be strong enough because the country we involve does not value human rights and human dignity.
I myself although I’m spotting myself but I don’t dare allow myself to be noticed by my parents and siblings because I know my family and how religious they are.
May God help us all